Is it okay to just walk away from him?

Im sorry for keep posting these questions. But.. i stopped being friends with this guy, i mean we were best friends. :( and we stopped talking and i tried to fix things but he has changed so much i dont even know him. When i tried to text him he was texting my best friend (they are close friends, her and him :[) and she told that he said he didnt want to talk to me. HE has hurt me so much i cant even explain it. When i talked to my friends they say to just walk away but dont you think i should just tell him everything? Or do i just never speak to him.





i just really need some advice and support, im hurting so much



aww, i hope everything gets better. Guys are really wierd you think you know them but you really don't. It seems that while you were close to him you develped feeling for him as well. I think you should speak with him face to face about everything and try to get the issue resolved. You have to see what he says himself, not what your friend says. I mean she's close to him as well...I dunno but are you jelous that he's also close with your friend?


Well tell him how you feel it's the best route to go.


Good luck:)




If he doesn't wanna talk it means he's probably hurting too. I'd say find a way to tell him everything. Perhaps you could text him a message explaining everything, but using your friend's phone so he'll at least open the message. Then even once he notices it's you he'll most likely at least read it, and if he has something to say, he'll respond. good luck.




Me too.





If he's willing to listen, then tell him everything. If you didn't do anything wrong, then go ahead. Tell him everything.





If he's not, then all you can do is try and get over it. Sorry, I know that's very bad advice and you probably don't want to. But if you've tried, then that's all that's left for you to do.




If he's said he doesn't want to talk to you'd I'd just give him space until he's ready to speak to you. If you don't he could end up disliking you more. Try and think of the postive things in life. Friends come & go (:




do you want to be with him?




Tell him what's wrong with you, and then if you want nothing to do with him, and think he's not worth your time even if you do miss him, then just don't worry about him anymore, maybe he doesn't realized he's changed though. My boyfriend did that at one point in our relationship where he changed when he hung out with certain people, and we weren't good for a little while. But he finally realized everything and that he didn't want to loose me over stupid ****, and has changed back to the way he used to be, I love him with all my heart and wouldn't trade him for the world. (:




Hmm touch choice huh? What I do when I have a huge desicision coming at me is make a list. I make a list of pros and cons. Just get a piece of lined paper and rule a line in the centre on one side right 'Stay' or maybe 'Work Out' on the other side of the line write 'Go' or Don't work out'. Right all the reasons or staying or going each designated column. When you've put down everything you can think of no matter how stupid it may seem see which side has the most reasons and go with it.





If you decide that yes you want to work it all out then maybe write him a letter, or an email or ask a friend to ask him to meet with you at lunch or recess quickly. A letter etc maybe easier as he may not turn up when you ask him to meet with you. In the letter or email tell him how you feel, that you want to get back on track and be honest but have tact. The last thing you want to say is: "You're a mean, cruel son of a *****. Hey can we be friends again? Coz seriously it won't work. Hopefully he will read it and at least give you a chance. If he doesn't you can try a few more times but don't hassle him this will only drive him further away, it's annoying. If he flat out does not want to be friends at all you'll have to move on, it'll hurt but your heart will heal and new people will be out there waiting.





This brings me onto if you decide to go. If you do you'll probably still hurt even though this is the decision you and you alone made. Keep yourself busy hang out with your other good friends. maybe start a few projects (not school projects like set goals, like learning a new instrument) basically just keep yourself busy. Take it from me it's the best thing you can do. Just make sure you keep yourself busy and have good support from family and friends.





Good luck.